"Wait on the Lord; be of good courage, and He shall strengthen your heart." (Psalm 27:14)
"Fear not, for I am with you;
be not dismayed, for I am your God.
I will strengthen you, yes,
I will help you,
I will uphold you with My righteous right hand." (Isaiah 25:4)
"..I have redeemed you. I have called you by name and you are Mine." (Isaiah 43:1)
Darla Doebbert Weiss, Mark, Jerry Doebbert (May 2016)
Today I am thinking about and praying for our long-time Lake-Avenue neighbor, Jerry Doebbert. Jerry and Linda were our neighbors for over 38 years.
And after 38 years of watching over each other,
celebrating the milestones in life,
laughing,
crying and
just sitting and sharing a cold beer at 4 pm on a lovely summer afternoon,
.....somewhere along the way the transformation happened and a neighbor who was a good friend morphed into family.
Jerry and Linda will always be family to Mark and me.
Jerry has always been well noted for his amazingly big, gruff commanding voice. Man, that guy can bellow! To many - especially his math students at the high school -- Mr. Doebbert was the guy to be feared! Though he had long put away the baseball bat that would be quite useful in bringing any class to full attention when he brought it crashing down on his desk to make a point, his voice never diminished and served him well those teaching years.
The Marthalers, however, never feared neighbor Jerry. Jerry was kind hearted and generous. He was quick to adapt to any situation. Many a time our boys would be found running next door with a tie in hand to have Jerry quick whip it into a tidy slip knot so they could then slip the tie over their heads and look presentable.
Jerry's garage was chuck full of tools and equipment -- all which were available to a neighbor with the only requirement that it be returned when mission accomplished. There was one glitch, however, and that was the code for the garage. Being a very capable and dedicated math teacher, Jerry picked the simplest and easiest code he could think of: the square root of 2. I'll let you figure that one out for yourself! Mark and I were always asking our mathematically-minded son for the code because we never could remember it.
One of Jerry's favorite responses to any question or invitation to come help was: "Your what hurts?" We would be raking our lawns as the oak and maple leaves freely fell from our trees and when one would holler to Jerry "Hey, your tree is dropping leaves on my lawn! Come and rake them up!" We would hear the much anticipated "Your what hurts?" Smiles all around. All was well with the world.
Jerry made sure our boys had what they needed to be successful in high school. Jerry designed aggressively challenging math courses for the students of Detroit Lakes High. Students who took his classes were well prepared for anything college could throw at them. Tony took every course Mr. Doebbert offered and when he attended college, Tony was hired as a college math tutor and said he didn't learn anything new about math until he was a junior in college! Andy, who had no desire to excel in mathematics, had Mr. Doebbert as an advisor. Mr. Doebbert refused to let Andy slide through his senior year by taking mediocre classes. Mr. Doebbert excelled in stretching students and propelling them into new and more challenging arenas.
As gruff as Jerry could sound, he was really a gentle soul. One summer Mark and I were painting our two-story house. Mark usually was the one who would go up the ladder and onto the scaffolding to do the higher areas, but one day while he was at work, I decided I could do that, too. The paint cans were already up on the scaffolding so I grabbed a paint brush and headed up the ladder. The first steps were no problem, but as I got higher off the ground I began to experience a weird sensation. By the time I forced myself to the scaffolding boards, I pretty much froze in place. I was too scared to stand up on the scaffolding boards and yet too scared to backup and find the ladder rungs. I stayed on my hands and knees gripping the scaffolding boards for dear life. Mark wouldn't be home for hours and the boys were gone for the day. I felt myself begin to panic. It was then that Jerry sauntered out of his back door and took a look my way. He hollered up at me and when I didn't respond, he wandered over and quickly assessed the situation. Within a minute he was up the ladder and talking me down. It took me forever to back onto the ladder, but Jerry kept his voice calm and his arms were strong as they guided my feet to the rungs. We went down the ladder rung by rung with Jerry letting me set the pace while he literally covered me with his body giving me confidence that I would not fall.


The summer of 2004 will always be a summer etched in my husband's memory. It was the summer we steel sided our two-story home. Mark had spent the summer of 2003 replacing all the windows in our 100 year old home and now it was the summer to remove the old shakes and put up steel siding. It would be an immense job. 2004 was also the year that Jerry retired from his teaching career. Thus, with time now available, Jerry and our other retired neighbor, Mel, became Mark's "crew." And what a crew they were! Mel measured and cut. Jerry nailed and snapped steel into place. And Mark tried to keep ahead of them preparing the way! Mark, or course, was still working his day job, but as soon as he was spotted walking over the hill returning home, Mel and Jerry strapped on their construction belts and they were ready for orders. What a gift our neighbors gave to us. What a gift.

When Andy made the move to North Carolina, there was a problem. His car - a Corvette - was undergoing some transmission work and unfortunately, the parts and the work that needed to be done did not coincide with the day Andy and Mark were leaving for North Carolina. How was Andy going to get his car 1,400 miles to his new place of residence? Answer: Jerry. Yes, Linda called it a "Doebbert Idea" and said Jerry had them often. When the car was road worthy, Jerry would drive it himself to North Carolina and take the Amtrak back since he had always wanted to go for an Amtrak trip. Well, Jerry did drive that Corvette to North Carolina and he did take the Amtrak back to Minnesota. It was a much longer trip via Amtrak and Jerry discovered that he couldn't sleep in a moving vehicle so he was very worn out by the time he came home!
Oh there are so many more stories:
Jerry calling Mark to come over and look at his car because of some noise or light or trouble;
needing muscles to put in a hot tub in the new Doebbert porch and then having to take it out again to check for a leak;
the Christmas fire in the Doebbert house that sent Linda and Jerry running for their very lives through the bushes to our place so we could call 911;
the borrowing of our pop up for their trip to Boston and then on the trip home their car dying so they had to buy a new car to get home;
Jerry's devotion to Linda;
his annoying singing as he puttered about the yard;
the classical music he played loudly at the end of a long day of yard work as he sipped on a refreshing drink...
In July when Mark and I visited Jerry at Ecumen Emmanuel's Transitional Care Unit, Jerry was struggling with his health. He had an open sore on his foot that was not healing. His heart wasn't working at 100% and neither were his kidneys. It was very serious. Yet, he announced in his gravelly, authoritative voice that he has had a full life, a good life, and however this is going to end, he is OK with it.
Yup, I'm thinking of and praying for Jerry today. Today he is undergoing surgery that will amputate a leg above the knee. Jerry's heart and kidneys are quite compromised. His health is so poor. The doctors are not very optimistic about the outcome, but they have to try. So Doug and Darla wait at the hospital. Other family and friends wait, too, with thoughts and prayers going forth.
May the Lord and bless and keep Jerry.
May the Lord make His face to shine upon Jerry and be gracious unto him.
May the Lord look upon him with favor and
Grant Jerry peace - deep and abiding peace,
Now and forevermore,
Amen.